Magic Spaghetti

This post is not about a spaghetti recipe. Magic Spaghetti involves a recipe for problem solving. The key ingredients are:

  1. Teamwork
  2. Creativity (think outside the box)
  3. Perspective

Let me tell you what happened. On Sunday I experienced one of those “worst mom of the world” moments. Truth is I didn’t abandon, abuse or neglect my child. So to say I was the worst mom in the world at that moment was a complete over-dramatization on my part…but a legitimate feeling that we moms feel when we make a mistake that we feel really hurt our kid’s feelings. Sunday was the night before my eldest son, Orly, started first grade. During the school orientation the week before, we parents received a little note that said, “First graders don’t open until the night before first grade.” I thought I had packed it in the folder with all the other papers I was given but on Sunday evening right before Orly was about to tuck in, I opened the folder to grab the note and realized it was not in there.

I checked the folder again to make sure. Nothing.

I checked my purse. Nothing.

I ransacked my car. Nothing.

My heartbeat was racing and guilt started to set in, but I was trying to stay positive. No big deal, I’ll just text one of my school mommy friends to text me a picture of the note, read it to Orly, and he won’t know the difference.

I texted three separate moms and a few minutes later I received the picture of the note. The clock was ticking and my son had to get to sleep so I didn’t even bother reading the note before I ran happily into Orly’s room. I climbed up to his bunk bed and said “Orly, don’t forget to read your teacher’s note before you fall asleep!” I handed the phone to Orly, snuggled up beside him and he began to read the note aloud.

My eyes skimmed the note faster than Orly could read.

So I’ve made this magic confetti for you,
Full of promises for the whole year through.
On the night before your first day of school,
When you lay down your head, just sprinkle some
Magic confetti under your pillow in bed.
The confetti will help you sleep through the night

I had forgotten the colorful confetti inside a tiny ziplock pouch attached to the note the teacher had given us.

OMG

I began praying Orly wouldn’t realize he was missing the confetti. But no such luck. Orly looked at me with his big blue eyes and asked, “Mommy, where is my confetti?”
Dagger to a mother’s heart.

I then had to explain to my six year old that I did not have the confetti because I must have left it at the school accidentally.

My son shoved his head into his pillow and started crying.

“Orly I’m so sorry.”

Without raising his head, in a muffled little voice Orly responded, “Mom, I know you didn’t do it on purpose.” My very logical next thoughts were “I’m the worst mother in the world;” “This will inevitably cause long lasting trauma;” “He’ll be in therapy for sure.” I gave him a big kiss, apologized a few more hundred times and climbed off the bunk bed to go cry to my husband, Orlando.

As I confessed every last detail, Orlando quickly jumped up from the couch and said, “I have an idea.” Trailing behind him like a lost puppy, we ended up in front of my kitchen pantry. Orlando opened the pantry cabinets, rolled out the pantry drawer, and stared at the array of items. Then he spotted a container of the noodles we put in our chicken soups and said “Ah-hah!” Still confused, I followed my crazy scientist-like husband straight to my sons’ room and watched him create his own magic. Orly propped up his head over the bunk bed rail and his father proclaimed, “Who needs magic confetti when you have magic spaghetti!!!” throwing noodles up over orly’s head like, well, like confetti.

Magic Sphaghetti

Orly burst into laughter. Just like that, the tears were gone. Orlando told him the magic spaghetti worked just like magic confetti only it was better because it was edible!!!  My little boy whispered in a sweet voice “Thank you daddy”. Then my husband said  to him, “You’re not really crying over the confetti are you buddy? You’re just a little nervous because tomorrow is your first day back to school.” Orly nodded and his dad reassured him he was going to have a great day with his new teacher and friends.

Despite the fact that “I” really didn’t redeem myself from my failing mother syndrome – I did learn some things.

No-one is perfect and we all make mistakes. However, all I was doing was focusing on the mistake. My husband focused on the solution. Sometimes I am the one finding the solution when my husband’s head is too crowded with the problem…but that is the key to the first ingredient in this recipe…teamwork. Pulling together and allowing the person who has clear vision to guide the way when you’re blind…and then vice versa.

Orlando deployed the most important ingredient in my recipe – his magic bullet – Creativity. He used creativity and humor to make light of a situation that, for a six year old, (and his vulnerable mom) was a big deal. By thinking outside the box, he made the night before First grade even more magical.

Lastly, my husband mixed in some perspective (and gave me some which I was missing at that moment)! The confetti wasn’t the end-all-be-all of making Orly’s night special. It wasn’t about the confetti at all.  At that moment, as Orly saw his parents standing next to his bunk bed throwing spaghetti noodles in the air like lunatics, he knew he was deeply loved and his feelings mattered. We as parents put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be perfect. Our generation is known for over-parenting or helicopter parenting. But despite our attempts to make our kids worlds’ perfect, that is not reality.

Life is not perfect. It’s probably a good thing our kids learn to deal with disappointment from a young age and that we’re going to mess up from time to time!!! But what really matters is letting our kids know that, regardless of the circumstances, we love them. The rest is just details. We may lose our magic confetti from time to time…but there’s no reason we can’t invent magic spaghetti.

Oh the Places You’ll Run!

Congratulations! 

Today is your day. You’re off to Great Places! 

You’re off and away! Dr. Seuss 

Recently I’ve been on the road traveling. Traveling is wonderful for some things…seeing new places, taking time off from the grind, meeting new people… But it could be disastrous for other things I.e. Diet, exercise, and routine!

And that is where the term lifestyle really starts to mean something.

It’s hard to stay on track during vacation or even a business trip. But if wellness is truly a lifestyle for you, you find ways to eat well and exercise (even if you do allot yourself some treats here and there. :))

Personally, I never exercised on vacation. Except one time I took a spinning class during a cruise. But that’s it. When I left Miami it was like a pass to leave exercise behind also. Until I took up running.

When I decided to join my girlfriend Betsy in training for a half Marathon I thought it was going to be a temporary thing. I had concerns, such as losing too much weight. But as my dad used to say, 90% of the things we worry about never actually come true. And in this case he was right. I did not lose weight. On the contrary, running increased my appetite and to compensate for the burning of calories and release of lactic acid I began consuming more complex carbohydrates. My legs got thicker and stronger and generally I felt better. After the half marathon was over I continued running on my own.

In July I was scheduled to leave to Washington, D.C. to attend the National Speakers Association Annual Convention. I knew my friend Bruce, who was also attending the conference, was a runner also so it occurred to me to ask him if he would be running in DC. I confess I was surprised to hear that he was! I guess I thought most people were like me and left their exercise shoes home when they traveled. Knowing he was going for a run inspired me to join him. We ran twice during the convention and now I must say I’m hooked on running on vacation. No matter where I go, I run. Some food for thought…

  • The great thing about running is that you can do it anywhere. It doesn’t require equipment or special classes. It’s free. And even if you pack like a minimalist it’s pretty easy to squeeze in a running outfit or two and a pair of sneaks. (I simply wear mine on the plane to and from).
  • Running in different places allows you to see the city with a different set of eyes. I run early in the morning so I get to see sunrises, calm streets, and beautiful views during my morning run. In DC, Bruce and I ran to the Cuban embassy and saw the Cuban flag that was brought up for the first time in over 50 years. It was so cool to do that while running. There were no crowds or tourists or heavy traffic. We ran up and down the streets of Washington, D.C. And really enjoyed the city in that short while.

Bruce and Caro Cuban Embassy

  • Shortly after I was in Sarasota with my family and friends. I ran several times during my week stay…some by myself and some with my friends Frances and Jeannis. I witnessed this spectacular view on one of my runs   Just magical! Truth is if I wasn’t getting up to exercise, I wouldn’t have these experiences or seen these sights.
  • Sarasota 2015I can’t emphasize it enough. Exercising with friends really allows you to connect with them. My favorite time with Bruce during the convention was in our morning runs. Same with my girlfriends in Sarasota. It wasn’t only running, we also did Bootcamp exercises together. It was a lot of fun coming together in the mornings, working hard and then getting together for coffee and smoothies. It’s a great feeling to know you are doing something good for your mind and body and you’re doing it with people whose company you enjoy.

The girls sarasota

  • Running with Bruce led me to run with his running club here in Miami. As a result I have met other really cool and interesting runners that have different professions and hobbies.  I find meeting new people is always an opportunity to learn. They’re also better runners than I am so I push myself harder, run faster and more miles. Joining groups to do an activity or sport you enjoy really gives you an opportunity to broaden your horizons
  • Even if you’re out of town and out of your routine, exercising on vacation keeps you on track. You stay in the mind frame of wellness and that is important. Because nothing is harder than getting back on the wagon when you’ve fallen off for a while. It’s always hard and often times we will avoid it altogether.  Avoid the Yo-yo effect. Stick to it no matter where you are and it will become a part of your life. The best example of that for me has been my girlfriend Thania. For years we have vacationed together in Sarasota and she never skips her exercise. I used to think she was crazy for working out on her vacation…but that’s because I didn’t know the secret …she felt fantastic! And her body reflects her commitment! Despite her age, how many kids she has, how busy she is, or where she is…she pushes through. I was proud to work out side by side with her on this vacation. After all this time I finally understand what lifestyle really means.

Running has become my passion. But really this post is not to convince you to run…although I do find that its benefits are countless. It’s about staying consistent no matter where you are. Maybe it’s walking or playing tennis or going to a gym. The point is to fit exercise in your travel plans and make it a part of your life. My girlfriend Barbie will not stay in a hotel that does not have a good gym – she caters to her lifestyle.

Creating a healthy lifestyle is full of benefits. Create yours and be contagious. Share with your spouse, your family and friends. Encourage them to join you. Let’s work together to be fit and fun!!!

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Matters of the heart

It has been 73 days since I last posted on my blog. In the world of blogging, that is an eternity. As Michael Hyatt might say, I took my sails down for a while. That has not been an intentional act but rather a reaction to the whirlwind I have been living in. For years I lived knowing my father was very sick. I knew this because of what his medical reports said and because of the treatments and surgeries he had…but not because he appeared sick. Quite the contrary! He was the healthiest sick guy I had ever known. His disease never prevented him from doing little things like traveling the world, paying tennis, speaking, and writing bestselling books. And since he didn’t want to stop doing these things (or stop getting booked for his gigs) he chose to keep his disease private. This decision carried its consequences for him…and for me. There were many lessons I learned from him along the way. My lifestyle change came about because of him…and so did my blog…but my “why’s” were kept quiet for a very long time. And then his disease caught up to him. As of January 27, my dad underwent a surgery that marked the beginning of his ultimate decline. From January to June 11, I stood by his side… Loving him, caring for him and learning from him…but this too, I did privately. I wanted to share with you struggles I had with food during that time, observations I made, and anything else I was feeling. I had lots and lots of emotions.  But I couldn’t do that. So I didn’t post anything.

Until now.

My father’s journey on this earth expired on June 11, 2015. His passing is a MAJOR event in my life, as he was and will always be, my soul mate. This all-consuming affair inevitably has caused a stir in me…anger, sadness, awareness, reflection, joy, gratefulness…a full blown tornado erupting in my soul. But as it is known, after the storm comes the calm. A new me is born and my journey continues.

And thus, today I open myself up again to this blog. To share about me, about family, about health, about love, and about wellness.

Life is an amazing journey, and I truly hope you join me along for the ride.

 

 

 

Back on Track

This was a great weekend for my family. My husband decided to do a 72 hour cleanse which required us to bunker up at home and make no plans. For a family who’s always on the go between school, work, family, friends and extracurricular activities … This mandatory pause was really welcomed. For one, I was able to sort through my kids’ clothes, toss what wasn’t necessary, and organize a bit. A to-do that has been on my list for about 6 months!  Secondly, we got to watch 2 movies which we’ve been wanting to see… “Fed Up” and “Hungry For Change” both excellent films. What’s great about watching documentaries such as those is that they bring you back to the “why” in eating healthy. Even if you’ve been eating clean for a long time, it’s easy to start slipping little by little. Birthday parties, weddings, dinners, holidays…all these activities and our societal culture make it difficult to stay focused on eating clean. I have found myself cheating more often than I should lately. It always starts subtly. A cookie here, a pizza there. Nothing crazy. But as time goes on and life takes over, the cheats increase. And before you know it, you need to stop, reflect and regroup. This was the third benefit of staying home all weekend. We had no external influences, healthy options available in our kitchen, and the time to prepare our meals without the rush of getting out of the house.  Even on Mother’s Day when my family did come over with Cuban treats from the bakery,  since we had regrouped and refocused, it was easy to turn away the treats. It was not a sacrifice to say no to unhealthy food…it was simply that we were back in the mindset of being clean. And that is a great place to be. 

As we wrapped the weekend up, my husband made a fantastic veggie tray for dinner last night …. One that is too good not to share.

  

Roasted Veggie Explosion

Preheat oven to 425

Ingredients 

  • 5 medium beets peeled and  thinly sliced into rounds (like potato chips)
  • 1 head broccoli chop off flowerets
  • 1 head cauliflower chop and use only flowerets
  • 2 thinly sliced red onion
  • 2 leaks sliced
  • 4 or 5 cloves of roasted garlic (we try to roast garlic in large quantities to always have in our fridge)
  • 1 long yellow squash thinly sliced in rounds
  • 1 long zucchini thinly sliced in rounds
  • Celtic sea salt
  • paprika
  • curry powder

Directions 

Toss beets in olive oil in a bowl. Place on parchment paper on cookie sheet. Sprinkle with sea salt, paprika NOTE: despite red color paprika is NOT spicy! and curry powder (just use as much or as little as you want of the spices and salt). The beets go into the oven on a seperate tray since The beets take about Ten minutes more than the other veggies to cook.

In a seperate bowl toss in all other veggies and toss in olive oil. spread out and place veggies  on parchment lined cookie sheet. Season with salt, paprika, and curry powder. 

Once the beets have been in for ten minutes, leave them in and put in the veggie tray on another rack in the over for 10-12 min. (Stir them halfway through and also at this point check on texture of the beets by tasting them. If they are tender take them out…if still crunchy leave in for remainder of the time)

Take both trays out, combine the beets and other veggies, toss together and enjoy. 

When its about more than just the exercise

What is the absolute worst part of starting to exercise when you haven’t been doing it? STARTING!

It is so tough to put those workout shoes on for the first time when you’ve been out of the habit. I’ve realized this rings as true for people who have regularly exercised as those who haven’t.

The day I got the call from my girlfriend, Betsy, asking me to join her in training for a half marathon in Puerto Rico in honor of her daughter, I felt a mix of emotions.

My first emotion was a sense of loyalty. Without question I had to do it for her and for her daughter.

My second emotion was fear. How could I train for a marathon if I didn’t even regularly exercise? How could I keep up with my girlfriend who has been exercising regularly and in much better shape than I? What if I fail?

Luckily, my sense of loyalty trumped my fear. I promised my friend that I would train with her as if I were running in Puerto Rico, however, for a million reasons I could not promise to participate in the Half-marathon.

And thus on January 26, 2015 we began training for a half marathon. Luckily, my circumstances allowed me to ultimately go to Puerto Rico, surprise Betsy, and run the half marathon with her. It was a meaningful time for me and I felt I should share some of the things I learned along the way: 

Don’t make excuses

We all make excuses not to exercise. We have so much on our plate and we are pulled in a million directions. We can find a thousand reasons not to exercise.  I often used a bunch of reasons not to exercise. In fact, despite how healthy I like to eat, I couldn’t find the time to get on a consistent workout schedule. Funny enough, when it wasn’t about me anymore; when it was for a cause greater than me… I found the time. I coordinated schedules with my husband. I got up even when I was tired. It became non optional. All of a sudden I no longer had excuses. 

Similarly my girlfriend found the time to exercise and run despite having a 10 month old, nursing, pumping, working, caring for her older kids, and still suffering from the sleep deprivation that only a mother of a child under the age of 1 can relate to. 

One of her girlfriends from high school hurt her knee during one of the earlier runs which required her to have physical therapy and treatment – but her commitment to the cause kept her running. Even though she couldn’t run more than 2 miles while her team was running double that, she did what she could and continued her training. And despite her limitations she ran and finished those 13.1 miles this weekend. 

There will always be something that holds us back, but what I learned is we need to find something that propels us forward. A meaning, a purpose, a cause… Something that is greater than us. That includes reaching a personal goal.  When you have that purpose, excuses disappear. 

Use exercise to strengthen your friendships

We all know the benefits of exercise. We feel better, we look better, it’s good for the heart and for our muscles. But I realized during this training that exercise is excellent for your relationship with the person you’re training with. While Betsy and I ran together we talked. We talked a lot. About everything. This time gave us the opportunity to get to know each other even better. It gave us a common goal that kept us from going weeks without talking to each other. And it made us accountable to each other. We were a team. I pushed her when she needed it and vice versa. 

On the same token, Betsys friends from high school were also training for this marathon. Even though they were in Puerto Rico they began a what’s app chat and they posted their workouts, their struggles, their achievements. It gave them a way to reconnect with Betsy and each other. And thanks to technology, they could do it while in different zip codes!

This got me thinking back and I realized at one time or another I have exercised with almost all of my closest friends. And I remember those  times fondly. 

If there is someone you wish to reconnect with… Invite them to train with you. It could be cross fit, boot camp, yoga, Zumba, tennis, running, cycling – your options are endless. 

 

Live by example 

Training for a half marathon requires dedication and TIME. I had been asked before to run a half and I declined because of the time it would take away from being with my kids. What I learned this time around, however, was the time I was spending away from kids was allowing me to be an example to them. For 2 months they saw me putting on workout clothes, coming back sweaty, eating healthy, and taking care of myself. That is a good thing. They should know that taking care of oneself is a necessity. They should see that exercise should be a priority. And I got to be an example of that. That felt great. I felt good about myself and I enjoyed them seeing me be fit. In fact, they started asking to run with me. They wanted to join in on the fun! A few weeks ago we participated in the cerebral palsy walk and my 6 year old had the opportunity to run with me. He ran the full 1.2 miles! What a pleasure it was to be able to share that with him. 

Even though we did not take the kids to Puerto Rico, Betsy and I did do a “mini” half marathon in Miami two weeks before the real one. (This was still when she didn’t know I was running the real one with her) 

My favorite part of that “mini” half was having my kids waiting for me at the finish line. I wanted them to see me reach my goal. I wanted them to know I could do it. And one day I will be able to tell them, if I can do it, you can do it…. And even better than I could have ever done it!

 

Speaking of examples. I had a dear friend, mentor, colleague that passed away last week. He was one of the wisest men I’ve known and I admired him greatly. I felt a very strong connection to him. His funeral service was on Friday morning just before I was to catch the plane to travel to Puerto Rico. As I solemnly walked in to the church, they handed me the program that would be used for the service.  I couldn’t believe the picture they chose for the program

 

I was moved, inspired and in shock to see this picture just 2 days before I was to run my first half marathon. Which leads me to my last lesson.

Open your heart to the meaning in everything

I do not claim to know if that picture was a pure coincidence or some sort of divine plan. I don’t have answers or understand most things that happen in this life. What I do know with certainty is that I open my heart to find meaning in all that I do. And for some reason,I find these meaningful signs all the time. By the time I set foot on that start line in that half marathon, I was running for so many reasons. I ran for Fofi (Betsys daughter) I ran for Betsy i ran for bill brown, I ran for my bucket list and for my kids and for my husband. I ran and ran and I crossed the finish line feeling motivated and inspired. And I realized it’s not just about exercise, it’s not just about eating healthy; it’s about being mindful and living with intention. It’s about keeping your body strong but your soul stronger. It’s about living the life we’ve been given in the most wholesome way we can and passing that legacy to our children.

Don’t wait to start your exercise…it’s worth it.

Take the “sweet” into your own hands.

When I decided to make the switch to eating healthy, I only focused on eliminating one ingredient from my food: SUGAR. At the time that seemed relatively easy. I figured it was time to stop eating chocolate chip cookies (my ultimate addiction!) and cereal and probably that was about as much sugar as I was consuming in my daily diet. Wow was I wrong!!!!

The decision to stop eating that one ingredient led me onto an incredible journey of discovering how to read nutrition labels, ingredients, and most importantly “in between the lines”. By the time I figured out what foods had sugar I realized that I could never eat again. Kidding…but not really. So many foods have sugar or sugar substitutes or sugar alcohol….the list is never ending. Now with the “organic” movement and the “gluten free” movement, companies have put in sexy ingredients to motivate consumers to choose their products over the traditional ones – without them realizing that the products are still full of sugar.

Common “hidden” names for sugar include:

  • Agave Nectar
  • Evaporated Cane Juice
  • Barley Malt
  • Brown Rice Syrup
  • Cane Juice Crystals
  • Carub Syrup
  • Corn Syrup
  • Corn Syrup Solids
  • Crystaline Fructose
  • Fructose
  • Fruit Juice Concentrates
  • High Fructose Corn Syrup
  • Glucose
  • Galactose
  • Maltodextrin
  • Organic Raw Sugar
  • Sucrose

….and there’s more that I am not listing.

In addition to these “sugar” ingredients, is the naturally occurring sugars you have in whole foods such as fruits. And of course we can’t ignore foods that rise our blood sugar (aka carbohydrates),

So the question for me became… can I absolutely eliminate sugar from mine and my family’s diet? The answer is an absolute NO.

My children inevitably eat sugary foods while they’re at school, birthday parties, halloween, and family functions.

I definitely eat less sugar than them because I don’t get a popsicle when I finish working out and no one gives me candy when I finish a motion in my law practice, but nonetheless I make exceptions just like everyone else. 🙂

So what’s the workaround for my family?

My conclusion has been that even though I can’t eliminate sugar (or junk food) in its entirety, I can definitely LIMIT it…at the very least in my home where I do have control.

I find that the best way I can limit sugar is to prepare my food at home. This can range from making homemade food from scratch or using certain already made ingredients that I feel comfortable as a base for what I am going to prepare.

I understand how hard this is. I am an attorney and work, I have 3 kids, I have hundreds of social commitments, I have to help with homework and clean the house and do laundry and take the boys to karate and soccer. I also have to exercise and make time for my husband. It is not easy to make foods from scratch. But we all have priorities and what we prioritize gets done. For some it is a priority to always look well groomed and pretty. I can easily say I never have time to put on makeup or blowdry my hair, but the reality is that makeup and blowdry is not my priority. (It probably should be!!!) For some the priority is keeping the house immaculate and in conversation a friend might confess “I don’t know how you have time to always keep the house clean, I just don’t have time to sweep every day.” You get the picture.

For me, food is a priority. So if I have to choose between making food or folding the clothes…I choose the food. And making my own foods makes my options endless. It allows me to eliminate sugar from recipes that I don’t think need it. It allows me to use the kinds of sweeteners I want to use – such as maple syrup, honey, carob or stevia. And most importantly it gives me control over quantities. Therein lies the key.

So here are 5 food items where we pack on a lot of sugar and can easily make adjustments to limit the intake and have a healthier home.

  1. Yogurt. I used to buy chobani yogurt for the kids and they loved them. They are so easy to throw in a lunchbox and have real fruit…but they are super high in sugar. I eventually bit the bullet and switched over to plain greek yogurt. Now I have small containers for the kids that I can put the yogurt in and I add in the ingredients I want. Sometimes I drizzle a little bit of honey, other times I put raisins or fruit or some granola for crunch. I recently saw Fage is selling a plain yogurt with a little packet of honey on the side. It is the same concept except I would never put all the honey the packet brings as it would be outrageously high in sugar.
  2. Oatmeal – I used to buy the variety pack instant oatmeal packets. My favorite was maple brown sugar and the banana one. Then I learned about the benefits of steel cut oats and I decided to make the switch. At first my kids were not thrilled with this change. They used to tell me that they like their grandma’s oatmeal better than mine. But little by little they got used to it, especially when I started doing this little trick: I make the steel cut oats with a little cinnamon and a vanilla stick but otherwise plain (sometimes I cook it with apples). I serve it on the plate and I set on the table chopped banana and a bottle of maple syrup. then I have the kids add in the banana and I help them to a little drizzle of maple syrup. They enjoy the process so much that they love the oatmeal and always ask for more. I’ve realized that when they KNOW they are adding sweet, it doesn’t have to BE so sweet. They only need a drizzle. As for me, I have begun enjoying oatmeal with unsweetened almond milk and I don’t require any sweet.
  3. Muffin, pancake and waffle mixes – There are so many great recipes nowadays on paleo and healthy websites. There is really no reason to buy store bought processed mixes. In addition to controlling what kind of flour and sweeteners you use, you can also add in really great ingredients like seeds, coconut oil, raw cacao, etc.
  4. Chocolate Milk- We all love my chocolate milk recipe. Unsweetened almond milk, raw cacao, a pinch of celtic sea salt, and stevia to taste. For the advanced palettes, we add a few drops of cayenne pepper.
  5. Nut Butters- I love nutella. It is just delicious. But let’s face it, that is a treat for very limited occasions. There are, however, healthy nut butters that you can make to have the feel of nutella. My favorite is 1 cup of almonds, 1-2 tbsp of raw cacao, a pinch of celtic sea salt and 1 packed tbsp of coconut oil (for those with a big sweet tooth you can add a couple of drops of stevia)- blend in a high power blender. This makes a delicious nutella-like spread that goes perfectly with a banana, apple or pear or on a slice of ezekiel bread.

These simple ideas can make a huge difference in your home and keep you from piling on too much sugar onto your daily diet.

 

5 Tips to Cleanse Responsibly.

“Cleansing” has become a popular fad over the years, especially during this time of the year. There are a vast range of cleanses varying from 3 days to 30 days and involving juicing, intermittent fasting, diets, or laxatives and/or herbal detoxification products.

The term “cleansing” alone helps a person envision themselves shedding pounds, eliminating toxins, having healthier skin, hair and nails and feeling great.
Although all these things can be true, I urge you to be very cautious before jumping into a regimen you are unfamiliar with. Releasing toxins causes stress to your body. You can easily over burden your liver and become very sick. I made the mistake of doing this once before my body was prepared and I got a bad case of conjunctivitis. When I went to see my doctor he advised that I was eliminating toxins too quickly and causing an unnecessary stress on myself prompting this illness. On the same vein, my mother at one time attempted an elimination diet (at my insistence).  She eliminated a list of foods all at once. She did this hoping to lose weight and get healthy but the shock on her liver was so great it had the opposite effect on her. Aside from feeling awful, she actually gained some weight. This left her feeling devastated and discouraged.  I understand we all want a jump start to our diets. We want to drop weight quickly to stay motivated. I, however, believe this can be achieved without overburdening your body. Small changes can have huge effects on your system.
Here are 5 suggestions to cleanse responsibly and successfully.
1. Look at your recent past.
What has your diet looked like in the last 6 months? Have you been eating high quantities of processed foods or sugary foods? Have you been drinking sodas or lots of coffee? Do you go to sleep on a full stomach? Do you suffer from constipation? These are considerations you have to make before you choose to engage in a full on cleanse. It is my opinion that if your answer to these questions are yes, you are not ready yet. I would definitely recommend you start cleansing your system, but in smaller steps.
If you have been eating clean for the last 6 months, and you want to take it another level, then maybe intermittent fasting or an extended juice fast is for you. Only you can truly make that decision. If you are not quite ready for a full fast, keep reading below and take these steps to get yourself ready.
2. Incorporate Whole Foods
Fruits, vegetables, lean meats, sprouted grains, nuts and seeds. These are the food groups you should be focusing on. If your diet consists of unhealthy foods and you begin incorporating these kinds of foods, you are essentially cleansing your system. Make it a goal to avoid eating fast foods, or drinking sodas, or eating high sugar foods.  If you are a sugar addict like 98% of the people around you, it may be tough to significantly drop your sugar intake. One little trick I did at the very beginning was I bought 72% Ghirardelli chocolate packets and I kept them in my purse. I would allow myself 3 packets a day – spread out. When I was feeling really bad and I needed something I would eat one packet. 4 pieces contain 11 grams of sugar. I would allow myself 3 totaling approximately 8.75 grams of sugar but only 1 at a time so we’re talking 2.75 grams of sugar in one sitting. As my taste buds adjusted to my new diet, I moved up to 86% chocolate and then to 90%. My favorite now is 86%.
Just remember before you embark in a real “cleanse,” you need to establish a healthy lifestyle and dietary habits FIRST, so you have a reserve that your body can draw on to allow your liver to do its job properly.
2. Consult a doctor.
Anytime I read about an exercise regimen or diet or read the label of a medicine, there is always a standard disclaimer…please consult your physician before using this product. What I am telling you is NOT a disclaimer. I have found incredible benefits from annual blood checks. I want to know how my body is doing from the inside out first. My doctor checks my vitamin D levels, cholesterol, blood pressure, liver function, heart, and blood sugar just to name a few. Your blood can be very telling of any symptoms you may be having or foods that should be a priority in your diet or that you should avoid altogether. Should you be increasing your good fat intake, or do you need a magnesium supplement? I would encourage you to find a doctor that practices a combination of western and integrative medicine to get a super valuable opinion. If you live in Miami, I recommend my doctor, Dr. Virgilio Sanchez at MCCI.

3. Exercise

MOVE. Your body needs it. We live sedentary lifestyles for the most part. We drive long commutes to work and back, sit at desks all day, and come home to lay on the couch and veg out. We need to get our blood flowing and wake our muscles up. Whether you are walking, running, cycling, swimming, playing tennis, or dancing zumba, I urge you to do something. Yoga, pilates, and hot yoga are also great regimens. Your options are endless. Do something you enjoy and make a commitment to do it as often as you can.

4. Drink water

How much water are you drinking? Are you keeping track? The Institute of Medicine determined that an adequate intake (AI) for men is roughly about 13 cups (3 liters) of total beverages a day. The AI for women is about 9 cups (2.2 liters) of total beverages a day. You need water in your system for your body to function properly. Additionally, it helps eliminate toxins and makes your skin look fantastic. Note, not all water is created equally. Aim to drink good quality spring water. If you have a reverse osmosis filter in your home that is fantastic. Of you can try good bottled water. One great cleansing tool is to drink a glass of Hot Water with lemon and a few drops of liquid cayenne pepper first thing in the morning. This little trick will help you eliminate toxins, regulate your bowel, and replenish your system.

5. Boost your nutrients

Our bodies are complex and we need so many vitamins and nutrients, it is difficult to get it all from the foods we eat. That is why supplements can be great. The problem with supplements such as multivitamins is that we often rely on those to be enough to nourish our bodies. I see this a lot in pregnant women who take their pre-natals but don’t pay much attention to the food they eat. Supplements should be just what their name implies— supplemental. Along with a clean diet and a good exercise regimen, supplements help boost your health and energy.

I use as supplements vitamin D, vitamin C, green superfood from Pure Synergy, woman’s multivitamin from Pure synergy, and magnesium CALM powder. And that is just scratching the surface. There are so many supplements and nutrients available to offer our bodies. It is my goal to explore more of them in 2015.

In conclusion, I would suggest committing to a healthy regimen for 90 days before embarking in a full detoxification program. You may be shocked at the results you receive from these basic tips.

Happy Monday!

Today is a New Day

As I sit here on the last day before the close of 2014, I think of all the resolutions we make for ourselves right before the start of a new year. Lose weight, stop smoking, be more organized, make more money, start exercising, spend more time with the family, travel more, complain less, eat healthier…the list goes on and on.

Every year resolutions are made and eventually broken. Sometimes you hear someone say “I don’t make resolutions because resolutions are never kept” or you read somewhere not to make a resolution, but to set a goal – short term or long term. The truth is that whether you are making them or not making them or calling them a different name, the beginning of a new year makes you think about what you could do differently or what really worked for you this year. Deep down inside the start of a new year always, even subtly, gives the promise of a new beginning…in some way or other.

I, personally, love fresh starts. I love resolutions. I love goals. Why? because whether I succeed or fail at any specific resolution or goal, I am always seeking a better future.

As I reflect, I decided to propose to you one particular goal for 2015:

Don’t only focus on the year…focus on each and every day…and focus on this very moment in time. 

View every day in 2015 as a fresh start to fulfill your goals. Every day we have on this Earth is a gift. And as long as we are alive we have a choice. We have a choice to eat better, exercise, laugh more, love more, complain less, say no to our vices or addictions, be more grateful, focus on the good, let things go, help others in need. There is always a choice. We also have the choice to write the first chapter in that book we’ve been wanting to write, or work on that business idea we’ve had for years.

And even if today was a bad day; even if we made poor choices today, or are paying consequences for bad choices we made yesterday, we have the choice to make a new beginning. We don’t ever have to wait to make that choice.  So it doesn’t matter if tomorrow is January 1st or any other day in the year.

Is there something you can do this minute to make your life better? Maybe its calling someone you love that you haven’t spoken to in a while, or sitting down with your kids to do a puzzle. Maybe its going the extra mile for your client, or choosing a healthy lunch option (even if breakfast was a disaster). Maybe you don’t have a gym but you can take a walk around the neighborhood, or choose not to curse at the driver who just cut you off. Maybe all you need to do right now is turn off the tv or social media and write a list of the things you want for your life. Don’t wait until tomorrow to make a commitment to yourself.

I propose you take a deep breath and make a choice this minute. Every minute counts, every day counts, and every year counts.

May health, happiness and prosperity be present in your life this 2015.

Got Beets??

I hope you all had a wonderful and mindful Thanksgiving. Now its back to work and time to cleanse from all that apple and pecan pies!!!!

I have to confess that my saving grace in this life are smoothies. I love knowing that the first thing my family gets in their system in the mornings is a good dose of fruits and/or veggies. I don’t make it every single day, mainly so we get a sense of variety, but I do make them almost every day. On Thanksgiving morning, I made a delicious Beet Smoothie. I do realize BEETS are a hit or miss. Some people love them, and some think they taste like dirt. To be completely honest, my kids do not enjoy eating them as a side. I’ve tried roasting them, raw, marinated with oil and vinegar., marinated in an orange/ginger sauce… but no matter what I do, I usually get a strong “I don’t like beets!” I can’t get my toddler to eat one and my older boys will eat a couple just so they get their dessert, but they don’t enjoy them.

But smoothies are a different story. Even though my kids, at first glance, complain that they don’t want beets in their smoothie, once they try it they always like it. Even my little one (my picky one) chugged 3 cups of this stuff!!! Yes I said 3!!!

Got Beets?

Smoothies have several benefits (other than their nutritional value)

1. Peace of mind. After my child has 3 cups of a nutritious smoothie like this one, it takes the edge off for the rest of the day. I know my toddler is likely not to have dinner (the most difficult meal). I know he is likely to get some form of junk at school. And I know I’m not with him at lunch time, so I don’t know how he will do with the lunch I prepare him. But even if the rest of the day is a total disaster, I know he has been nourished.

2. Food does not go to waste. We buy highly perishable foods…and most of these foods are expensive. It is really sad when you have to throw it away because you didn’t make it within its shelf life. Smoothies allows you to use a lot of vegetables and fruits at once, especially when you see that the greens are starting to wilt or the fruit is too ripe. You can approach your kitchen more from a clean up crew perspective than anything else. Scour your fridge for any veggies/fruits that are just about to go bad (and that go well in a smoothie of course) and use those that day. If you are clueless as to a recipe for any particular item, just google it. For example, google beet smoothie and tons of recipes will show up). There are even apps for that. Tip: look through a few recipes to find one that has several ingredients you have in your fridge. You don’t have to follow the recipe exactly, it is just a guide so you know what fruits and veggies work best together. But if something calls for oranges and you only have apples…it is not the end of the world, you can use what you have.

3. Its quick and easy. All you really need for a good smoothie is a good blender. One of the best investments I have ever made is the Blendtec. Seriously. The consistency you get with a high power blender is just plain and simply worth it. Its nice that you don’t have to overthink a smoothie recipe in the morning. You grab what you’re going to use, give it a good rinse, chop what needs to be chopped (with a high power blender you only need a rough chop at best), throw it in there, and press a button. Voila!!!

4. You can boost it up. Catching a cold? Throw some vitamin C and D in the smoothie (I open up the vitamin c tablets and pour the powder in the smoothie…with vitamin D I have drops so I add some drops). Don’t like swallowing multivitamins (toss it in the smoothie). You can also add superfood, seeds, coconut oil, protein powder…your options are unlimited. A lot of these additions don’t change the texture or taste of the smoothie but really boost up the nutritional value. This does take some experimenting however. Chia seeds (for example) WILL change the texture of the smoothie… this is something you may or may not like. But this is a journey…its okay to get one thats not so great once in a while. You’ll learn and next time it’ll be better.

Here is my Beet Smoothie recipe.

  • 2 Beets (raw)
  • 8 ounces of orange juice (I squeezed a bunch of tangerines and put the juice from that)
  • 1 long stalk of celery
  • 1 apple
  • 1 cup of spinach
  • water

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Have a fantastic week!!!!

The Effects of Moving

I have just realized that it has been almost 3 months since my last post. Wow. How time has flown! There have been moments that I’ve wanted to post, ideas I’ve wanted to share, or recipes I’ve experimented on the go…but I was living in a whirlwind and I would push aside that nagging urge to write so I could focus on the urgent task which was to move out of my house. And finally today, as I feel more settled, I came back to my blog that I have loved so much over the last few years. It feels as though I am meeting with an old friend that I was so close to once, but time has separated us and I don’t know if we will pick up where we left off. So here I am hoping we can rekindle our relationship. I think the most logical first step, is to tell you where i’ve been these last couple of months.

For 7 years we have been living in a charming 3 bedroom townhouse. That home was where we began our marriage, where our 3 children were born, where they took their first steps, and where we committed ourselves to a healthy life. It was the happiest of homes, but it had become quite snug with our 3 growing boys. I did wonders in keeping the house  comfortable and organized, thanks to bloggers like Joshua Becker, Becoming Minimalist. But it all went downhill when my husband surprised us all with bicycles last December!!! At that point, without a garage, living in a small space with 3 boys and 5 bikes in my dining room became overwhelming. I don’t regret having those bicycles for one minute, however, because it is one of the most pleasant activities I have with my family. I love riding for hours on the weekend, instead of sitting at home sedentary. In fact, it was on a bike ride on a sunny saturday that we rode right in front of our new house…a house I fell in love with from the moment I saw it. To spare you the boring details, suffice it to say, that after a lot of hard work and help from my dad, all the stars aligned in our favor and we were blessed enough to finally purchase our dream home and sell our beloved townhouse. This process entailed packing up the house, moving everything into storage, and living at my mom’s and mother in law’s house off a suitcase. There went the blog.

To begin, here is something I learned. It does not matter how tidy you keep your house…when you move the dust unsettles and comes out of every corner!!! So much so, that my son had a major allergic reactionIMG_1441

At the same time my baby got a fever and ear infection, and we were all sniffling and coughing. We finally got out of the house, which solved a lot of our health issues, but still we were living out of a suitcase. We didn’t have our groceries and we were eating out or food at our relatives house, which limited our options. It was definitely stressful.

The only thing I took with me was my blendtec and ginger. This was mainly because the dust had made the boys sick. So I did try to make them smoothies with lots of ginger to keep up their immune system. (I also had to give Orly children’s Zyrtec while we were in the middle of the move).

But even with my blender, I did slack a lot. I was tired, overwhelmed, and uncomfortable. It was just easier to eat what was available. This was an amazing experience. It brought me back to the reality of how hard it is to maintain a healthy lifestyle if you don’t have a good system set up. There are no healthy pick up or delivery options if you’re eating on the go and often times your family members don’t eat the same as you do. And lunches?? lunches were so difficult. I didn’t have my salad containers and I didn’t have my regular groceries for my kids, so they ended up eating hot lunch at school and I would eat as good as I could.

My only saving grace was that I’ve been eating healthy for so long that my habits are very well ingrained in my being. So I would make good choices 9 out of 10 times, even if I was not eating optimally. I enlisted my husband’s grandmother to make healthy vegetable soups for us to eat. I bought smoothies next to my office and replaced the juices they use with fresh squeezed oranges or water. And no matter how chaotic it got, I never caved to a fast food restaurant. I did, however, eat a lot of pizza!!!!! It was a learning and humbling experience. It made me really see the need we need to create a community of healthy eating. It can be extremely lonely and challenging without the necessary support and resources.

There was change in all of us. Between the dust, the stress, and the food we were all feeling sick and tired. We truly felt the change.

I’m happy to report that we are back in motion. I went to Costco yesterday and finally stocked up my kitchen with all my nuts, seeds, organic frozen fruits, and lean meats. I’m adding ginger and garlic to everything I can to restore our systems. And we are blessed with a yard for the very first time. So we are lucky enough to have fruit trees and can now regularly “earth” as many like to call it. I’m really looking forward to getting my well oiled machine running again and sharing all the new recipes and tricks with you!!!!! It feels good to be back!